Marriage Counseling: Why Would It Be Worth It? by Dr. Randy Carney
Originally published in GoArticles.com
Why would a couple want to go to a marriage counselor?
Oftentimes, the husband will be reluctant to go because he feels that it reflects failure (and he feels that it reflects greatly upon his ability), and he does not like to admit failure. The wife can refuse for this reason also.
However, sometimes a couple can be helped by each of them listening to the other partner try to put into words the frustration he or she is having. When those words are directed at the third party instead of at each other, sometimes the other person hears things they never took time to hear before. Most marriage counselors do not want to just be referees, but even having rules for a discussion laid down and for which the spouses will be accountable can be helpful when it comes to working out the problems in the marriage. Then the counselor may require the couple to write down things they appreciate about each other. Sometimes this surprises the spouse of a partner who is not very verbal.
Just taking the time to go to a counselor, however, does show that the couple understands that their marriage is one of the most, if not the most, important area(s) of theirs lives. That may be worth as much, or more in some instances, as what they will hear from their counselor.
Is marriage counseling worth it? Yes, if the counselor is a good counselor. Yes, if the couple needs some help communicating. Yes, if it would remind them of why they came together in the first place. Certainly, the marriage relationship is worth anything that would help it.
(Copyright 2008 by Randy Carney)
About the Author
Dr. Randy Carney has worked with married couples for years. Understanding each other seems to be a major hurdle that, if overcome, brings success in any marriage. Did you find this encouragement helpful? You can learn more secrets to marital bliss by going to: Secrets of Marital Bliss.
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Two resources can help:
The Loving Way to a Successful Marriage: Six Keys to Marital Bliss is one, and Secrets of Marital Bliss is another.
Don't just have a tolerable marriage, have a great marriage!
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